Self Renewal - The Critical Factor
By Kim | May 12, 2008
I love watching the Home and Garden channel, especially when they renovate a house. Often times, when I watch the amazing home transformations that take place, I think about self renewal. For some reason, I started to relate the wear and tear and abuse we go through as people in comparison to a house. It’s amazing how a house weathers the external elements around it. In time, the house starts to show the signs of the battles it’s endured - the sagging shutters, the peeling paint, the loose shingles. Then there is the interior of the house - with its own unique set of needs - new plumbing, interior paint, new flooring.
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Self Esteem Lesson From An Eleven Year Old
By Kim | February 17, 2008
I’ve always been in awe of people who exhibit consistent high self-esteem. My eleven year-old son falls into this category. Many times, I wonder how his self esteem is so high when I must constantly work on my self confidence. Anyway, my eleven year-old loves sports and usually excels at them. To top it off, he’s a consistent high performer in academics as well. He truly believes that he can do anything he sets his mind to and rarely gives up until he gets the results he wants. Unfortunately, during football season, he had a game where things didn’t work out as he expected and he suffered public humiliation as a result. Keep reading………
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Pitfall of Negative Thinking
By Kim | February 17, 2008
Negative thinking has a sneaky way of creeping up on you if you’re not careful. Even the most dedicated self-help, personal development junky finds his or herself falling victim to negativism at times. It happened to me today in the workplace. One of the supervisors I work with was explaining why one of our employees was unhappy in the office. This employee is one of the employees I label as the ‘floundering five’ because they are always critical, negative, whinny, complainers that never focus on anything positive. It gets old and irritating at times. I guess I let them get to me today. Years of ‘automatic’ negative thinking patterns snatched the opportunity to take over. This type of thinking became so natural over the years that I hadn’t even realized I was doing it.
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Why Personal Ethics Are Important
By Kim | February 6, 2008
Ethical dilemmas occur when you are faced with situations that conflict with our values or beliefs. In simple terms, some people like to refer to ethical dilemmas as the difference between right and wrong. However, right and wrong is subjective to different people based on a number of factors including culture, family upbringing, and experience. Know this, people can rationalize anything if they have no standards for measuring right or wrong. There will be many times in our lives that we are faced with ethical
dilemmas, and this is why establishing your own personal ethics is extremely important.
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Your Demeanor Reflects Self Esteem
By Kim | February 3, 2008
Low self esteem shows in your demeanor. When my self worth was at its lowest, my shoulders slouched, I rarely made eye contact, and a sad expression remained plastered to my face. I was a walking advertisement for self depreciation. Each day, my self confidence disappeared a little more. I never felt like a failure before, but I learned there is a first time for everything. But you know what? I can’t explain it, but the fighter in me refused to give the people knocking me the satisfaction of knowing they were getting to me. I was sick and tired of having my dignity stripped away. I decided to boost my morale and I started by faking it.
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Why Care What Other People Think?
By Kim | February 3, 2008
I believe we care about what other people think because we want to be accepted. For many years, especially in the workplace, I let my concern over what other people think about my actions and behaviors control me.
By caring what other people think - I placed myself in a very bad place. For starters, we can never please everyone and there will always be people who do not like us. Moreover, instead of caring what we think of ourselves (internal forces that we can control) we place our happiness and wellbeing on external forces (which we cannot control).
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Beware - Hater Alert
By Kim | January 20, 2008
Beware of your Haters. We all have them. What is a Hater? A Hater is a person who does not like you and wants to expose your flaws or knock you down a notch or two. Whether we admit it or not, we all have people who dislike us or want to make us feel less worthy. That’s life. Unfortunately, many people tend to react emotionally to Haters. Personally, I’ve learned to deal with them as irritants forcing me to grow into a better person.
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Your Willpower Is Sabotaged
By Kim | January 20, 2008
Willpower in another way of describing our determination, our resolve, or simply stated…. our will. I started thinking about this, because at the beginning of every year people start setting New Year’s resolutions to lose weight, save money, or make other life changes. The hard part is that willpower isn’t effective for just one day. We need to consistently exercise our will over an extended period of time to experience success. This is a pretty daunting task in the type of society we live in today. Everyday, we are conditioned to seek the convenient way out. Here’s what I noticed on a typical food shopping day.
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What Type of Talker Are You?
By Kim | January 19, 2008
Over the past year, I’ve been paying close attention to the type of talker I am. My goal in doing this is to improve my communication skills, as well as the type of person I’m striving to become. Over the years, I watched all kinds of talkers in action - the smooth talkers, the shit talkers, the big talkers, the wind talkers, the sweet talkers, and the trash talkers to name a few. Each type of talker has made an impression on me - either positive and negative. For instance, the smooth talker knows how to work
his/her communication to influence or get what they want; whereas the trash talker tends to rub people the wrong way.
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Trusting God With All My Heart
By Kim | January 19, 2008
When I first decided to use this Blog to record my thoughts, feelings, and experiences as I learn and grow as a person, I was a little apprehensive about publicly postings for everyone to read. However, trusting God to help me deal with one of my biggest challenges - strengthening my ability to express myself to others as I continue to get to know myself - pushed me forward.
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